The Human Power to Read Anybody's Mind - is It Really Possible? - Episode 1
YOU are the owner and operator, just in case you never thought about, of the most amazing, complicated, but beautifully constructed natural device ever your brain!
The last time you bought or acquired one of the plethora of modern gadgets available on the market, such as a mobile phone, camera or washing machine, you probably made time to at least scan the manual which accompanied your purchase. When you did so, it was probably with a view to how you could derive the most benefit and pleasure from its use.
The human brain – indeed the human race – did not come packed together with an owner's manual upon arrival – unless I have been grossly misinformed. Small wonder then that understanding the foibles of human personality, controlled by that very brain, has forever presented a constant puzzle. Dr Wayne Dyer once said: “Everything you own, everything you've done, and everything you are... they are the results of choices and decisions that you once made. Therefore, you essentially have the chance to push the reset button on your life with every new day.”
But, today, a powerful new approach to reading, and then anticipating human behavior has increasingly come to the fore. The seeds of the movement towards reaching this understanding started some years ago via NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming – an approach to psychotherapy and organizational change based on "a model of interpersonal communication chiefly concerned with the relationship between successful patterns of behavior and the subjective experiences (esp. patterns of thought) underlying them" and "a system of alternative therapy based on this which seeks to educate people in self-awareness and effective communication, and to change their patterns of mental and emotional behavior".
The co-founders, Richard Bandler and linguist John Grinder, claimed it would be instrumental in "finding ways to help people have better, fuller and richer lives".They coined the title to denote their belief in a connection between neurological processes ('neuro'), language ('linguistic') and behavioral patterns that have been learned through experience ('programming') and that can be organized to achieve specific goals in life. (see wikipedia:)
It is a fact that most human communication is not contained in the actual words used – in fact 93% of our communication is encapsulated in subtle body language. So, what Messrs Bandler and Grinder effectively discovered then, was the key to reading a person's mind.
To help you in YOUR daily communication, here are some of those powerful keys to use, this time about approval:
Signs of approval to read as coming from others
Whatever we wish to communicate is rooted in our unconscious minds, which present as spontaneous gestures and actions – mostly not connected to the ACTUAL words we are hearing. Understanding what these actions mean affords us all with a unique mental map, guiding us to a person's inner motivations. Being equipped with an ability to interpret these signals opens a door to knowing if a person approves of, or rejects an issue being discussed – or indeed the person concerned.
How can we practice reaching an understanding of body language?
Just turn on your TV set, but not the sound for now. See if you can interpret what is being said by observing the speaker's body language. No doubt, like me in the beginning, you will be non-plussed – so here is a user's guide to reach a measure of primary understanding:
Non-Verbal Signs of Approval
1. Lip Puckering – this is a form of kissing, but is directed at no one in particular – showing some sort of approval for the TOPIC under discussion, and sometimes the other person.
2. Tongue-in-cheek – this usually precedes lip licking and signifies a measure of empathy toward you.
3. Fingers touching lips – Emotional approval of both you and the topic under discussion.
4. Lip Licking – this is the highest rated sign of approval of both the topic and you – in real life, when this sign is displayed, you can usually move toward arriving at some sort of consensus on the matter.
5. Lip biting – there is some potential for emotional involvement, coupled with an invitation to expand on the topic being discussed.
6. Finger sucking – a sign of fulfillment towards you and also with the subject being handled.
7. Playing with the hair – Again, this shows utmost fulfillment in your company, but rather in an affectionate sense, rather than sexual.
8. Leaning forward – a simple one this – shows an interest in the topic under discussion.
9. A casual shifting of objects towards them – an indication that the person concerned wants to take ownership of the subject at hand.
10. Friendly touching – A degree of empathy with you.
11. Opening up of space between arms and legs – the person is opening up to you and the subject concerned.
How do we read possible signs of rejection?
Acceptance is all very well – but how do we know when we, or our ideas are being ejected, even though nothing may be said? That will be the subject of my next Factoidz – so watch this space for some exciting NEW developments and news.
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