The Different Types of Bullies There Are
I decided that it was about time that I returned to this subject because it needs and warrants more attention. Before I continue, I just wanted to say a huge thank you to everyone who has been contributing in this area. It has been awesome to get your stories, insights, views and opinions. I know that, even now, it is helping people and I hope that it continues with as much force, passion and conviction as it started. I have written a lot in this area and I have found that it has helped me. A lot of us carry baggage from the past that we need to deal with. It takes some people longer to do so. Each journey is different and each experience unique. I find that it is the same with bullying – with the victims and the bullies themselves. So this article will delve into an area which is virtually unknown to me. Some of it may seem grim or glib reading but it all comes from the heart. I will attempt to give you my opinion and I hope that the readers of this article will do the same.
I have said a lot about bullying victims but not much about the bullies themselves...
The first type of bully, and perhaps the most dangerous -is the insecure one. If you look closely at the vast majority of bullies, their behaviour is a response to and as a result of certain issues going on in their lives. As I have said before, bullying is not restricted by class, race, religion or background. That not only applies to the victims, it applies to the bully as well. When people mention the word ‘bully,’ there are a lot of images that are conjured up...from the large guy with the loud voice, bad hair and questionable clothes, to the fashionista with a clingy posse, mean put-downs and a sharp tongue, to the controlling spouse using every trick in the book to manipulate. Each is dangerous but most of them have insecurities that they are dealing with. Bullying gives them an element of control that they do not otherwise have in their lives.
The second type of bully is the violent one. There does not appear to be any reason for their behaviour except that they get a rise out of being gratuitously violent. They rule by fear, and the silence of their victims is what they get a rise out of and what motivates them. By speaking out, the victim undermines the bullies’ strength . . . most of the time.
The third type is the passive bully. These are the ones who use stealth rather than direct contact. These are the ones who become the stalkers and terrorise their victims. The damage that they do can be more severe than any beating or verbal assault. If you want to know more about them, click this link.
What they all have in common is their ability to cause those that they bully lasting pain and damage. This spills over to affect not just to the victims their families as well. They have to be dealt with, and any warning signs and behaviours nipped in the bud. There is no easy way to do it, but if people will proactively take a stand in any way they can, then perhaps fewer people will have to suffer this scourge. There are no set rules or methods of dealing with bullies, but no one should be afraid to step out.
Take care and God bless readers....