How to Judge Intentions to Deal with Other Peoples Using Body Language
We can hide our intentions or emotions from other people but there is a silent language which discloses ourselves to others. This is our own body which discloses our emotions and intentions. It is a scientific fact that people's gestures give away their true intentions. It is often said that human communication consists of 93% body language and paralinguistic cues, while only 7% of communication consists of words themselves. Body language may provide clues as to the attitude or state of mind of a person. For example, it may indicate aggression, attentiveness, boredom, relaxed state, pleasure, amusement and intoxication among many other cues. This body language knowlegde helps you to learn how to interpret non-verbal language, exploring the gestures and actions that reveal thoughts, attitudes, and emotions.
The technique of 'reading' people is used frequently. For example, the idea of mirroring body language to put people at ease is commonly used in interviews. Mirroring the body language of someone else indicates that they are understood. (Whatever knowledge we use to judge others, it should be for a positive or constructive purpose as we can use 'body language' learning to make dealing better with other humans.
Body language is the movements of arms and legs, body posture, the manner in which you sit, facial expressions, gait, eye movements and regular gestures such as stroking your hair, touching your nose, etc.
Body language means communication with the movement or position of the human body. It can be conscious – or unconscious.
It is something that is noticed by everybody but is not always given enough attention. We sometimes ignore it and try to hide behind words, but we should never forget that we cannot fool everyone.
Peter Drucker once stated: “The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said.”
That’s because the silent signals of nonverbal communication tend to reveal underlying motives and emotions –fear, honesty, joy, indecision, frustration - and much more. The tiniest gesture, like the way your co-workers stand or enter a room, often speaks volumes about their confidence,
self-worth, and credibility. And the way you sit, stand or look at others reveals more about your true intent than you may realize
Children react to body language because they experience the world through intuition. The same can be true for adults when feelings are involved.
A way to learn the secrets of body language is to watch television with the sound turned off and try to interpret what is being said simply from reading body language. You will experience that humans say a lot with their mouth which is contradicted by their body, gestures and other channels of communication. Messages are ambiguous.
On television it's interesting to watch contestants in quiz shows like 'Who wants to be a millionaire'. You can detect their understandable tension from the way they hold their hands till their knuckles turn white and also from observing their quickened breathing.
But a notable feature of the early years of the 21st century is the fact that the body language of different nations is gradually becoming more similar. Thus, a gesture made by someone in (say) South America can often be easily interpreted by people in Russia or Japan. Much of this is due to the effects of TV, which of course shows the same sort of ‘soap operas’ in all parts of the globe.
Apart from individual differences, there are also differences between geographical regions, as well as between cultural groups. For example, in Greece, you nod your head for 'no', and shake your head for 'yes'
The human brain communicates to the body how it is to position itself. Body language is subconscious and is intended to create a balance between inner feelings and outer appearance.
If we develop increased sensitivity to our own body language, our ability to read others' body language is increased. This makes it easier to tell whether a person you are talking to is happy, sad, sullen or irritated. Or whether he or she is lying to you, or is impatient, or bored. You should also be able to register whether the person appears to like you, agrees or disagrees with you, is aggressive to you, or is suspicious, angry or worried.
To be able to read body language is very interesting, but it can be complicated as well. If you are eager to know more about body language, there are a number of good books on the subject –like: by Allan and Barbara Pease and also by Dr Desmond Morris.
Link to download free body language ebooks:
* Download from 'Deposit files'(Click to free download button while waiting few seconds to get download link): Body Language: How to Read Others Thoughts by Their Gestures (152 pages, PDF,3.40 Mb)
* 'Body language Magic' (230kb, 50 pages)
More studies and useful links:
* 'Body language articles at 'Self Growth'