Can Internet Relationships Really Work?
Internet relationships can be as meaningful as regular relationships, but they are lacking in two very vital and important things, touch and smell. Touch, smell and being in the presence of another, is vital in forming a lasting relationship, you can’t kiss on the Internet so therefore an Internet relationship can never be totally fulfilled before both parties can meet.
Signals are hard to be interpreted over a video link
However what many people cannot understand in an Internet relationship, is that the presence of love, hate fear, happiness and sorrow are all there, couples can hear each other, see each other; indeed the couple can share a meal together, and with the use of a laptop can even go out to a restaurant together or on a picnic together. However the final touch, that final feel, that final sensation is lacking, and this in its self can led to a frustration that is unique in an Internet relationship. Body language and visual signals are hard to be interpreted over a video link,
There have been many successful Internet relationships, and also many have failed, so are far as a comparison between the successfulness of a regular and an Internet relationship there is no difference.
Based purely on trust
One of the main problems, that can be encountered with an Internet relationship however, is that because there is no body language or close contact between the couples, it is very easy to be just as the other party wants you to be, you can become almost in a dream world, in real life this has to be borne out and proven, whereas “on line” it is based purely on trust and what is told.
So therefore a false relationship can be formed, and this is only discovered if, and when, the people finally meet, this fear of being found out can be one of the reasons why one or both of the parties "put off" meeting. Quite often in a Internet relationship it is one sided, often it is the female that becomes more deeply involved simply because of the way females and males react with feelings, a female can easily get the wrong impression whereas the male can and will often use this weakness to his advantage, if that is his intention.
Another factor should also be taken into account, in that often, an Internet relationship is formed between to people who live very far from each other, in another country with different customs and cultures, religions and foods, and this can affect them, when they are suddenly put into this situation, because it is mostly the female that is deeper and more involved into the relationship, she can be more vulnerable, blinded by love, and this different environment may not seem so bad, it is not until later when things settle down, that she could find herself lost.
Men can adapt easier
However a man by his very nature can and does adapt more easily, and so it is always preferable that it is the man, which should be the one to enter into the female’s environment simply because it is he, that can adapt and cope easier.
So to sum up, can Internet relationship succeed? Yes they can, but proceed with caution, just think, if in a regular relationship either party could at any time just “Log Off” and then when ready to continue “Log On” again, wouldn’t that make it easier to get on with each other? But real life is not like that, you have to make a commitment and then be with each other all the time, in each other’s environment, that way when things go wrong you don’t just blank it off by “logging off” you either sort it out or part, and move on.
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